Technology = Relationship Nightmare

Posted by Jane

Okay. I know I’m not alone in saying text messages are fucking annoying. And illusive. And so are emails, instant messages and bad Skype connections. None hardly conducive to communicating in a relationship. Take it from me, a recent divorcee of a long long distance relationship with an Indian man named Kip, who was lovely but….in India. Yeah that makes a lot of sense. Anyway we met in London became amazing friends and quick lovers and wanted to keep it going, but he left London and so did I. For a while talking on the phone worked and we stayed close, but with neither one of us knowing when we’d be back together (physically) again, it sort of fell through the cracks with the bad connections in the bland unromantic world of email and the cold hand of technology.

But seriously the whole game playing that comes with texts and facebook messages are ridiculous. For one thing, they can be misconstrued and taken a million difference ways. For example: 

Carmen: “It’s a lovely night out for a drink.”

Lame guy reply: “It is a lovely night out. I’m just working on some papers. Have a lovely time.” 

Okay, clearly he didn’t get the subtext. 

I had an experience of my own yesterday when I received a message from the illusive Mr. Grey, saying he couldn’t meet up with our friends for drinks tomorrow night because he had to work, but if we were getting together in the afternoon to let him know. And he hoped I was well. 

I had a hard time knowing how to respond, mainly because I know it could be misconstrued on so many levels. I wanted to ask him to meet up earlier before work, but didn’t want it to sound like a come on. (Since he still has that girlfriend he used to buy theatre tickets from to go out with me….again….I know how this sounds, really, I’m aware) But I did want to see him, shame on me, so I decided to try to word it casual and act like I’d have to run off quickly, but if he wanted to have a coffee before I went to meet the others I could meet him. 

As I began to over-analyze my reply (as I find women often do) I really hoped he didn’t find me too forward. But if he does, fuck him. I’m over trying to cater to him and his feelings. He’s the one too sissy to break up with the snobby twit brit girlfriend. Who by the way, he really doesn’t like very much in my opinion. Ugh. 

Well what started as a technology rant became a Grey rant…this is typical, and probably something you’ll have to get use to if you read our site. I’m sorry. But I’ll try to get better.

~ by Jane on July 16, 2008.